humans, we are judgmental, srsly.
our first action is always= to pass a judgment to what it seemed like.
fact is, u dun know what's behind the scene, so friends, i know it is hard, but try to be less judgmental? whatever you coined up to be in ur experience may not be as what it seemed to be.

seek to unds, be less imposing and gossipy?

tired of those "it looks like..", "I think so..", "shouldn't it look like?", "you din say so I assume" and etc.

let's make friends look good as we accept their shortcoming and help them.
well at least, i hope my friends are so.